Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Finding the Time to say: I miss you!

Melissa J. Alexander

As another semester begins to draw to a close I am reminded of all the people I miss. Family, friends, and lately more so than ever my colleagues. Recently we have all lost more and more of our colleagues and friends to budget cuts and other not so drastic things; personal moves, etc. I, personally, lost 3 of closest friends at my school and in theater some nearby neighbors to cuts, family, and job moves. I’ve been thinking about them a lot lately.

One of my closest work friends was our choir teacher, and though his move was for a positive reason (new baby!) I still miss him terribly. Simply, he is not here and my contact with him is limited to text, phone, facebook and the occasional quick get together. I no longer have my dear artist friend to hang with at lunch when we both need to blow off steam or write notes too during long boring PD meetings. I no longer have my partner in musical theatre “crime”. We were constantly laughing, inspiring, and planning together; he was so important to me when in lesson planning I hit that artistic wall, we could always count on each other for that fresh perspective and voice. And though life proceeds, as it tends to do, and you do find new friends and new support, it saddens me to leave so many behind.
            As I was dwelling on this very subject I realized something good and happy. More so than ever I am looking forward to going to TETA in January! Though my choir & core discipline teachers friends will not be present; so many people I enjoy seeing will be there. Here is a conference made up of great lessons, workshops and performances that as an added side benefit gives me the time to catch up with colleagues from all over Texas and be inspired daily by their attitudes, lives, and artistic personalities. I always leave TETA with dozens of new ideas for my classroom and troupe; but more importantly I always leave with new friends, and a renewed relationship with colleagues I respect and admire.  It is a difficult thing to do what we do in the wake of budget cuts and messed up testing systems; but as a whole we persevere. And going to a conference that spends all weekend honoring what we do is really rewarding; even if for only knowing we are not alone.
So, I ask this of you dear readers, if you’ve lost a friend or colleague to the state of our schools this year, remember them now. Remember what you meant to each other and how your job was better because of them, simply remember their smile, their laugh and the inspiration you felt being close to them. Now, call them, write them, facebook them and tell them you miss them. Nothing can mean more in this day and age then to know someone thinks of you and why. Always remember the people who inspire, comfort, and protect you and please do your best to hold on to them. There is always time to say “Hi”, “I miss you”, “Hope your day is bright!”; find that time and use it well!